Fetish sex tips - kick-start your inner kink
Fetish sex tips - kick-start your
inner kink
Fetish sex for beginners
Fetish sex
has long been seen as something a little weird - perhaps the dirty
secret of sleazy couples in dodgy clubs but since Fifty Shades of
Grey, fetish sex
is becoming something we can actually talk about and even do!
The definition of fetish sex is actually pretty broad. That little thing your guy likes you to wear whilst you’re both doing the deed? Well that’s fetish sex - not so scary now is it? Normally a fetish is something that a man or woman is sexually fixated with - say heels, lingerie etc and needs to see in order to get off. It doesn’t need to be anything weird - but then if something offbeat gets you off who are we to judge?
Fetish sex can incorporate elements of obsession and fantasy to kink up your normal routine.
The definition of fetish sex is actually pretty broad. That little thing your guy likes you to wear whilst you’re both doing the deed? Well that’s fetish sex - not so scary now is it? Normally a fetish is something that a man or woman is sexually fixated with - say heels, lingerie etc and needs to see in order to get off. It doesn’t need to be anything weird - but then if something offbeat gets you off who are we to judge?
Fetish sex can incorporate elements of obsession and fantasy to kink up your normal routine.
According to Amy
fetish sex is all about being ‘trysexual’; being open to pushing
boundaries to exploring yourself and your partner sexually to make
sure things stay fresh in the bedroom.
“Fetish sex can be a fantastic and exciting thing. You never know what you really like until you have tried it,” she says. Well that’s just good sense isn’t it!
So we got the low-down from Amy of all things fetish sex, there’s even some cheeky tips you can try out for yourself... Enjoy! What is fetish sex?
“Fetish sex can be a fantastic and exciting thing. You never know what you really like until you have tried it,” she says. Well that’s just good sense isn’t it!
So we got the low-down from Amy of all things fetish sex, there’s even some cheeky tips you can try out for yourself... Enjoy! What is fetish sex?
Amysays that what many people
think is fetish sex,
isn’t. It’s time for us to blow your minds and myth bust those
fetish misconceptions.
“People immediately associate fetish sex with whips and chains and handcuffs but it is much more involving than that and can embrace all different types of sex.”
Little things like dressing up, which might just seem like a bit of fun is actually moving into the realms of fetish. Say you like your man to dress in uniform and get all Officer and a Gentlemen on you - then this is a type of fetish.
Rather than needing something to be present in sexual relationships (which is a pure fetish), fetish sex is about incorporating these things into your sexual repertoire to broaden your horizons.
Saying that, fetish can pretty much be anything and that can seem a little overwhelming so Amy has pinned it down to four main categories which then can expand in the weird and wonderful world of fetish.
“People immediately associate fetish sex with whips and chains and handcuffs but it is much more involving than that and can embrace all different types of sex.”
Little things like dressing up, which might just seem like a bit of fun is actually moving into the realms of fetish. Say you like your man to dress in uniform and get all Officer and a Gentlemen on you - then this is a type of fetish.
Rather than needing something to be present in sexual relationships (which is a pure fetish), fetish sex is about incorporating these things into your sexual repertoire to broaden your horizons.
Saying that, fetish can pretty much be anything and that can seem a little overwhelming so Amy has pinned it down to four main categories which then can expand in the weird and wonderful world of fetish.
Bondage
Let’s start off with bondage. People
have got a lot more a fait with bondage ever since a certain book
came out but people have been experimenting with
tie-me-up-tie-me-down sex
techniques for ages.
There are two types of bondage - soft and hard (surprisingly). “Softer bondage would involve perhaps tickling with a feather tickler to tying up with wrist restraints. If this softer bondage works for you, why not move on to some harder stuff and maybe try some handcuffs or a flogger into your sex sessions?” says Amy.
Bondage relates to the whole dominant/submission form of sex where one partner takes control whilst the other submits to their every desire.
Obviously you need to be with someone you trust to try bondage and never do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
Bondage can also expand into BDSM, if you want to find out a little more about this aspect.
There are two types of bondage - soft and hard (surprisingly). “Softer bondage would involve perhaps tickling with a feather tickler to tying up with wrist restraints. If this softer bondage works for you, why not move on to some harder stuff and maybe try some handcuffs or a flogger into your sex sessions?” says Amy.
Bondage relates to the whole dominant/submission form of sex where one partner takes control whilst the other submits to their every desire.
Obviously you need to be with someone you trust to try bondage and never do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
Bondage can also expand into BDSM, if you want to find out a little more about this aspect.
Role Play
“Role play is a great example of
fetish sex.
This can embrace all sorts of different fantasies,”
says Amy.
This can pretty much be anything that you can come up with. From sex with a stranger to having affairs, the thing with fantasies is that they’re just that.
You can be as controversial as you like, as long as it's legal and no-one's getting hurt!
This can pretty much be anything that you can come up with. From sex with a stranger to having affairs, the thing with fantasies is that they’re just that.
You can be as controversial as you like, as long as it's legal and no-one's getting hurt!
Dressing Up
Dressing up doesn’t have to be all
about French maids and secretaries, oh no. The thing about fetish is
sensation, touch, sight, smell etc. There’s a lot of enjoyment to
be had from dressing up in different materials, different lingerie
and seeing if you like it a little more than a good bra.
So yeah, we’re going to say it, crotch-less body stockings. Nothing says fetish like a body suit with an open hole...we guess?
Plus you can’t argue that they do look pretty amazing even if slightly over the top. And the way you’ll feel when you’re wearing them? Orgasmic.
Things are kinkin' up a storm.
So yeah, we’re going to say it, crotch-less body stockings. Nothing says fetish like a body suit with an open hole...we guess?
Plus you can’t argue that they do look pretty amazing even if slightly over the top. And the way you’ll feel when you’re wearing them? Orgasmic.
Things are kinkin' up a storm.
Your turn-ons
Amy
says that your turn-ons are
almost the most important thing to remember and we couldn't agree
more.
She says: "Just remember there are no rules when it comes to sex other than the fundamental one: don't do anything you are not completely comfortable with. Be a 'trysexual', be honest with your partner and don't be afraid to try new things.”
So he likes your feet, so what? There’s a lot of guys out there that have a thing for feet and our advice is just go for it. It might be a little weird but a compliment's a compliment and if he’s into a bit of fetish footwork you can always give it a go.
Fetishes can fixate on any part of your body (which isn't the obvious boobs, genitals, arse etc), and can even include inanimate objects like shoes, lingerie. Individual fetishes can be all kinds of weird and wonderful so just embrace your unique turn-ons. So now you’ve got to grips with what fetish sex can be, want to know some tips on how to work it into your sex life? Yep, we thought as much, tip number one coming right up...
She says: "Just remember there are no rules when it comes to sex other than the fundamental one: don't do anything you are not completely comfortable with. Be a 'trysexual', be honest with your partner and don't be afraid to try new things.”
So he likes your feet, so what? There’s a lot of guys out there that have a thing for feet and our advice is just go for it. It might be a little weird but a compliment's a compliment and if he’s into a bit of fetish footwork you can always give it a go.
Fetishes can fixate on any part of your body (which isn't the obvious boobs, genitals, arse etc), and can even include inanimate objects like shoes, lingerie. Individual fetishes can be all kinds of weird and wonderful so just embrace your unique turn-ons. So now you’ve got to grips with what fetish sex can be, want to know some tips on how to work it into your sex life? Yep, we thought as much, tip number one coming right up...
1. Cling film
Simple bondage is definitely the way
forward for fetish sex.
Handcuffs, nipple clamps, all of the unsuals will be great but if
you’re really looking to experiment then we’ve got a little trick
for you - cling film.
Make your partner stand up straight with his arms by his sides. Wrap the cling film twice around his body (making sure you’re not going too tight) and then get busy giving him the blowjob of his life.
The sensation of the cling film on his skin and the fact he can see everything will give an extra dimension to what’s going on down there.
Plus most of the time you’ll have this in your cupboard - sexy and practical too.
Make your partner stand up straight with his arms by his sides. Wrap the cling film twice around his body (making sure you’re not going too tight) and then get busy giving him the blowjob of his life.
The sensation of the cling film on his skin and the fact he can see everything will give an extra dimension to what’s going on down there.
Plus most of the time you’ll have this in your cupboard - sexy and practical too.
2. Footsy
So your guy has a thing for feet? Why
not put on some sexy stockings and make his dream come true. Make him
stand in front of you while you sit on the bed.
Don’t let him touch you, but run your feet across his body slowly whilst keeping eye contact. Start to massage his balls with your feet, lightly pat them once with the ball of your feet very gently.
Then let him remove your stockings and cup your feet around his erection. You don’t really need to be doing all that much more than suggestively touching here, but having you in control and your feet in his most erotic area will work wonders as a bit of foreplay.
Don’t let him touch you, but run your feet across his body slowly whilst keeping eye contact. Start to massage his balls with your feet, lightly pat them once with the ball of your feet very gently.
Then let him remove your stockings and cup your feet around his erection. You don’t really need to be doing all that much more than suggestively touching here, but having you in control and your feet in his most erotic area will work wonders as a bit of foreplay.
3. Sexy stranger
Amy says that role play is a
great way to introduce fetish sex
to your relationship.
“Go to a bar separately and bump into each other as if you are meeting for the first time. Let him take the lead and rush you home to enjoy sex as though you are having it together for the first time.”
You could always meet in a hotel lobby with a pre-booked room and take the fantasy way out of your normal surroundings.
Very Secret Diary of a Call Girl. Very sexy.
“Go to a bar separately and bump into each other as if you are meeting for the first time. Let him take the lead and rush you home to enjoy sex as though you are having it together for the first time.”
You could always meet in a hotel lobby with a pre-booked room and take the fantasy way out of your normal surroundings.
Very Secret Diary of a Call Girl. Very sexy.
4. Dress to impress
Maybe your guy’s thing is dressing
you up. If he’s into a bit of leather then there will be nothing
sexier than you going to town with this idea.
So why not invest in some boots, an extra tight skirt or specially tailored fetish gear? Once you're in your new leathers, lie on the bed and touch yourself. Allow him to lie next to you but under no circumstance is he allowed to touch...
Tease him for as long as possible until you can't wait for him any longer. The sight of you in front of him dressed up in his fetish fabric of choice will be a massive turn-on.
5. Go for it guys
This is one tip to show to your other half. "Move on to some soft or hard bondage - handcuff her to the bed and overpower her. Lots of women will love you to be in charge and enjoy being submissive,” says Amy
The whole point of fetish sex is communication - so get your partner involved!
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